rvrunner,
Your observations are all pretty much on track. As you say, the SLA and AGM batteries should have charge rates that fall closely into the same parameters. The 14.4 volt charge rate that you see from your Ford alternator is nominal. The E-350 system charge program is set by Ford and is not adjustable--the output of the alternator is monitored/controlled by the Powertrain Control Module (PCM), which receives an input from the alternator and returns an output to the alternator regulator setting the charge rate based on RPM, ambient temperature, system voltage, etc. To my knowledge, Ford does not alter the system charge program in the PCM based on whether they install FLA or AGM batteries. Lastly, most (or all) solar controllers do provide more detailed adjustments for the charge program than any other source.
Since your vehicle alternator is not normally the main charge mechanism for your house batteries (not for hours--turning into days--like your converter or solar system), it is not as critical long-term to battery life and condition. And since 14.4 volts would be an acceptable range for both bulk and absorption voltage for major AGM batteries (Victron, Trojan, Lifeline), I don't believe you have any concerns with your current operation.
Mike