Chuck,
I only use the macerator system so can't address your question #2. However I can say that on my 2019 2552 the gray water does drain freely through the macerator hose with the gray valve open. Just parked for a week in this configuration with steady water use, and I always use this method when on full hookups. The gray tank won't read empty; it may show close to full--but I've never had it back up into the shower pan.
Mike