A few hundred pounds of gear in the rear of a small 2WD pickup helps with dirt road traction; I know, as that's all I was given working for the USFS 30 years ago, but it did the job.
Thanks Michelle! I really had not thought about a pickup. Old saying where I come: "nothing is more helpless than a 2wd pickup with no weight in the back."

Grew up in farming country and learned to drive off road long before I was ever legal to drive on a real road. So I've no problem driving places most folks would never dream of.
Not really worried about extreme off road though. As long it handles well on graded dirt or gravel and the occasional snow & ice I'm good. Mostly focused on small SUV types: Jeep Liberty, Compass, Patriot or Cherokee. Or Honda CR-V or maybe Ford Escape. Lightweight, 4 down towable, reasonable mileage, 4x4.
I am an advocate in buying used vehicles over a brand new one
I've done both, though our main driver has mostly always been new. But I think for a toad, used is better for us. I would really love to find something already set up for towing then I would not have the expense of plates, tow bars & braking system. Which another whole confusing set of decisions to make.
Too many options are always bad. Just got off the phone with a client looking for one of my pictures and I think I messed up the sale because instead of just saying the price I offered her options: framed? canvas? metal? gloss or matte? No one wants to make a wrong decision and too many options seem to paralyze a sale. I guess I am there with a toad right now.